Monday, April 25, 2011

a very mature 5

Mae is five and a half. In February, we had a little 5.5 bday celebration for her at Kindergarten. It was my first experience with it for Mae and I was a little nervous. You tell a highlight story from each year and show a picture. My mommy guilt inspired me to make her a poster (I'll take a pic and put it up tomorrow) with about 10 pictures on it. We went through each year and its highlight. What was most interesting to me was how eager Mae was to share her "special book." She is fine with talking about the fact that she was adopted and sharing with her little friends that she has two mommies and two daddies. Noah, whose sister Elyana is from China, sang Happy Birthday to her in Mandarin (!) and everyone seemed more interested in the cookies than the details. In other words, everything I hoped for came true: Mae is comfortable talking about being adopted. And just as beautiful - her friends were very into when she walked and talked and stopped wearing diapers. Kids are amazing, aren't they? They found what was similar, while as adults we tend to notice what is different. Mae had a very happy day. And I relaxed a little inside. It's going to be OK. It's not going to be perfect, but it's OK. This is her reality, and we've been as open about it as possible, and now she is choosing to share it with her friends. Exhale. Repeat.

1 comment:

Jen G said...

I only read occasionally but had to comment on this post. You should be proud of yourself. You did this and create a space for Mae to feel so comfortable with who she is. As mom's we are always beating ourselves up about what are kids aren't and you have to stop and give yourself credit here for the parenting you and Paul have done.